What shall we inject to our children, Reality or Compliment?

I grew up in hearing comments like “ you are not good at doing this” “this is not your strength” or even “you are not this material”. Parents and teachers inject their own but sincere and honest judgment for young people for their benefits and goods.

One significant thing that we learned at ESL class is not the pronunciation but the no matter how bad the questions from the students, we should reply “it is a very good question”. I sometimes felt that the word of interesting has been overused that I don’t even know what it truly means.

I understand the meaning and power of encouragement but sometimes get confused with injecting compliments vs. injecting reality, which one brings more benefits to the listener? Our teachers injected reality for us and helped us calibrate our course, what’s wrong with that? We all turned out to be just fine as scientists, engineers and lawyers in world-renowned institutions.

Now we are facing our next generation, growing up in United States? What should we inject to them? Reality or Compliment?

There is a theory called “lava effect” stating quantum physics supports: We’re all connected, The universe is conscious/aware, Thoughts are “energy”,… we are talking to our conscious, therefore we should inject positive energy to our surroundings. I agree with the conclusion but find it hard to believe for we are all connected.*some one supports me here.

I don’t have a child now so I don’t know if the challenges of raising a child will make this matter buried in the noise. But I want to share with him or her that always think positively. No matter how bad the situation is, it could be worse. As long as God is living, there will be a way out.

* http://sashen.com/blog/category/quantum-physics/